Fairytales

The Lady says:

I was chatting with my friend last week and we somehow ended up with me saying "Fairytales never include dating, only happy endings!" I felt that this somehow reflects how unrealistic fairytales can be. And then it hit me (after a weekend of doing nothing except going thru several movies). Fairytales do reflect life in a compressed way. Of course you just have to look very closely to see.

Take for example "Cinderella". Ofcourse Cinderalla is us, figuratively speaking. Many might object but come on, don't say you never once thought of yourself as maltreated by life at one point or another. And please don't even tell me that you ever preferred cleaning up other people's mess than go to a ball, well, for us it's called plain going out and having fun! Dating would be when Cinderella was dancing with prince while the pitfalls of dating or conlict is represented in so many scenes and characters on the book. There is the evil stepmother and stepsisters to represent conflict and ofcourse the curfew by the fairy godmother to represent restrictions telling us to go slow. If you've got nothing else to do (because you're low on dough) you could re-read and you'll find that there's more to Cinderella than you think!

No matter how frivolous you may think fairytales are, you'll find that life is more represented in them that you'd care to think. Get past the ball gown and the helpless female persona, you'll see that it's camouflage for the real thing. Remember, these authors are adults trying to make a living. They have to make their real life experiences fantastical, whimsical and children-friendly to earn their way. So when reading fairytales, just think of them as super sugar coated versions of our lives. Oh but where is our happy ending? Ahmmm... I did say fairytale is a compressed version of life so happy ending might come a little later and with a little more work.

The Witch says:

I think that every story is a real story somehow. Settings may change or the characters may be fictional but in the end, one sees it as a reality that one of the many souls was able to live in the countless alternate universe. Parables, fables, biographies, poems, news etc are but a different face of the this fairytale we so long to re-live.

Heck, the good thing about fairytales compared to others is that there's always a happy ending. And as I told the Lady, there's always the Prince, for anyone with a heart of a princess the thought that you'd always, always have your happy ending is worth all the brilliance of any novels across the ages. That's why we'd rather look at fairytales as is and not shred it into pieces as you dissect each part and nuisance. After all, you'd want to see it as is, unblemished and pure, not just as another story.

The Bitch Says:

I think i was that friend... hihihhi~

Its true though.. how come fairytales never include dating? they'd get a glimpse of one another and fall madly in love and the prince would do everything even die for the princess and they'd live happily ever after. How come theres never anything like that that happens in real life. granted thats why they're called fairytales but theres nothing for us to go on. nothing we can even remotely use to our advantage. Do you think that if we build a huge barrier of thorns around us, or lock ourselves in a tour, run away from prince charming, the princes in our drab little daily lives would run after us? come save us from the drudge that we are in? hmmm...

But then we all want to believe with all our hearts that we are the princess who the handsome prince would one day find and free from the clutches of the evil witch.. heck who wouldnt want to believe that right?

We all want our happy ending, dont we? have you ever wondered when YOUR happy ending will finally come? when your prince charming will finally defeat the dragon and rescue you from your prison tower? hmmm...

That 1 liner

The Bitch Says:

I was walking around the mall the other day... when i saw this 1 liner that made me think..

~ Live each day as if no one was watching ~

You know how people by nature are always so worried about what other people think of the things they do, the way they act, they way they talk, the way they walk.. virtually everything is judged in this society. So i saw something in that 1 liner that made me think "why dont we do just that?" live everyday of our lives as if we were the only person on earth. eat what you want, prance, bounce when you walk, sashay if you want to, laugh out loud, brush your hair while walking around the mall, talk with your mouth full (try not to spit though).. Why are we always so afraid of how people judge us despite the fact that we know we are not in any way doing harm.. that we are not in any way breaking the law or the rules of humanity.. as long as we do our good deed for the day, does it really matter if we happened to burp or fart in public? human nature has its way of being natural and unacceptable at the same time. double standard in essence..

What do you think?

The Witch says:

Though I am one who tries not to be affected by everything, I won't lie and say that I am unaffected because most probably I am. Trying is hard enough.

I've long been told that I should stop thinking about what people think of me. I asked how do I do that when from the start I've been told to always "mind my manners" or "be nice in public" because people might say things that would be degrading to me and my family. Just like most things, I would like to think that it's our upbringing that leads us here, a life that's so consciously lived we can't move properly.

A few months back for example I had coffee with an old friend I haven't seen in years. I used to be a really shy gal who got this "hindi makabasag pinggan" image. Then I showed up and I literally turned the coffee house upside down. I've been known lately as someone who's loud and bratty. Well, the entire night my friend kept on telling me, "slow down, no need to say that out loud, everyone can hear you." I looked around every time he'd say that, guess what, no one's listening cause everyone else is busy with their own conversations. WHY'D HE TOLD ME OFF? Don't ask me.

I guess, we could all try to do what we do and be oblivious to everything and everyone. Of course, we've been pre-programmed to think and act otherwise. It won't hurt to try though. Sometimes, the best things are those enjoyed by yourself. As a matter of fact, my most favorite thing to do while walking in public places is to sing out loud. My ex would usually laugh at me and ask me why I do it when there are people around me. I would answer, "Kase naiisahan ko sila, I'm singing and enjoying myself immensely and they could care less, some don't even notice me and those who do can't care less."

The Lady says:

I think we were raised to care what people would think and that is the reason we rarely do things just simply because we want to. We know it's not going to kill anybody nor it's going to hurt anyone but it still buzz in the back of our minds if people would approve or not. Selfish of them, I think, to even try to have a say on my life. Why can't they focus on their life??? It's not going to kill them to do just that, would it?

Life is a learning process, a journey. I'd like to think that people along the way won't shoot me when I start wearing a different hair color. From my point of view, if there is a wrong hair color, there also is a wrong culture, wrong race, etc... I wouldn't live in a world, where everything seems to be getting us one step closer to adhering to Hitler's Life To-Do list. Exaggerated? Maybe but then people thought Holocaust ever happening was exaggerated until people started getting sent to Concentration camps. Lesson from that? Well, I know there is more lesson to that particular event in our history but for me it's simple. Unless what crosses my eyes offends me to my core, I'd let it pass. I think so long as they don't try to crowd me,. I'd be ok (I've got serious issues when it comes to this).

Life is life and there will be bumps and they're manageable. If not, then they'll just destroy you and I think, at that point, you should concentrate on picking the pieces of your life rather than concentrate on other people. Life is sunny and rainy but if you start focusing on the mud, all you notice is that you're dirty. Think sunny and getting tan or rainy and dancing! When people talk, think of it as if their music. There are just some music that you don’t care for so you just turn dial to another station or just edit your play list on your Ipod. Just one reminder though: There are some music worth listening to even if the tune is not to your liking.

Wishlist

The Witch says:

It took the Bitch and the Lady weeks before they got to add up their entries from the previous post as blogger was blocked from the netweork. How long will this blog survive, I ask. Hehehe~

I was texting the Lady earlier this night and then the Bitch later on. I told the Bitch that I want to make a new entry in the blog and asked her what could be our next topic. She said maybe we should make a wishlist. Ohhh, I love wishlists. So here goes!

Wish #1 - Peace of mind. Now, now, this ain't an easy wish, as a matter of fact I think this is quite harder to achieve than most things. I really feel that I need this now. Not because Im brewing a storm inside my head, rather I feel that I'm approaching that phase in my life where everything should be in sync with everything else. And it only follows that my mind should be the haven that I've been wanting.

Wish #2 - Constant companionship. With the turn of certain events in my personal life I couldn't help but wish for someone. And by that someone I mean a companion, a sould mate. Not necessarily a romantic partner (pwede rin) but rather someone like me who's exploring the world and wants to see everything but has no one to share it with YET. That would be nice.

Wish #3 - My own house/condo/apartment. I just need my own space. Home ain't as pleasant as I would want it to be. I just need a refuge. Hopefully I'd be able to work on this within the next few years. It's between this and wish #4.

Wish #4 - My own car. Yeah, albeit the skyrocketing price of gas and the momentous paymenst to be made including insurance, registration and maintenance, I still want one. For someone like me who can't commute without getting lost or who is always on the brink of a psychological breakdown whenever I'm left in a very public place (read Cubao or something similar) a car would inherently help give me the "peace of mind" I've been wanting.

Wish #5 - A job I love or a hobby I absolutely adore. I'm in that stage now. I'm trying to find my niche in this world. I want to be able to enjoy my life. With that, I realized I also have to be able to atleast find a job I love or at least a hobby that would balance my job and personal life into perfection.

Done! Now, I honestly think it would take time to see any of those to be realized. About 3-4 years ago I made another set of list. Digicams, a promotion and dating someone cute were part of the list and heck, it seems so easy to get those.

The Bitch Says:

When i told the Witch "let's do our wishlist!" i was initially thinking of what i'd really want to get by the next year or so. Of course, this would compose entirely of material things, but then i went another direction and thought, material stuff would be easy enough. I wanna get down to the nitty gritty wants ..

Wish #1 - My own car. I hate sharing the family car for the fact that i cant use it without having to check if anybody else had more pressing/important errands to run. although ive eliminated my brother as my strongest competitor..

Wish #2 - My iPhone. i have to wait till next year and that s a couple more months from now. i might have to wait for them to work out the kinks.. but then, eventually..

Wish #3 - i'm thinking #3 would have to be a "happy" job.. something that the Witch and I have been looking for.. personal shopper. cosmetics. fashion. everything that would interest the "girl" in us. shoot, who would want to work for a high paying company doing their shopping? i even saw this one article somewhere where this girl would be sent to Milan or somewhere in Europe to do shopping... Me and the WItch would love that

Wish #4 - i have always wanted to live on my own. Dont get me wrong, i love my family. the whole bunch. but then there are just times when you just want to be alone and you CANT because everybody else is there.. pains of being in a big family.. would be better if i had my own room, but, no. i dont even have my own room.. tsktsk.. sad..

Wish #5 - hmm.. can wish #5 be a genie? who can grant me any wish i want? not logical and highly improbable. i guess wish #5 can simply be that i find what im looking for in life.. be able to settle down.. have my own life.. find my own happines.. then maybe all the other 4 wishes would come..

The Lady says:

WORLD PEACE! That is my wish.

Sorry, sweeties. I'm not really into making wish lists.