I am not my Virginity

The Lady says:

I am my flesh or am I? Take away a limb and do you take away a piece of me? Or did you just take away a distraction and challenged me to take a closer look of who I really am?

Hi, I'm the Lady. I lost my Virginity a long time ago. Does it make me less of a person that I lost it? Am I less intelligent? Am I less stronger because of that?

I never really thought much about it. But the Witch and I were at Bux waiting for someone, when we got to talking about why we decided we lost our virginity early on. So I thought to the time when I lost it. When I lost it, I agonized over it and the Whys of it. Then I realized, that it wasn't that I lost it but that it wasn't really good the First Time!!! (Haha) But then is it really good for anybody for the first time? Anyways, it took me days to realize that as Voltaire (French writer and philosopher) would put it, "It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue." And I'm not really into superstition. There were a lot of other issues I had to address that REALLY affected my life so I left that issue behind for someone else to ponder and moved on to important things.

I am educated, intelligent and unafraid! I earn my living instead of stealing it. All that I have on me, I worked hard to have the right to wear them. I look at a person and wait before judging. So why should I put myself in that box labeled "Virginity" and let that be my meter for my value? Why let others? I don't and I never will.

The point is, it's not our virginity that's important. It's losing it on our terms that is important. It's YOU. It's ME that's important. Don't let Virginity distract you from who you are. After all, we're bound to lose it someday. Do we also LOSE when that day comes?

The Witch says:

I've been itching to write this entry since last Saturday when the Lady and I finally touched the subject. I wanted her to go first though since it was her idea to write about it.

You see, I've been hearing a lot of negative things about girls sleeping around. And though I'm not guilty I feel that there are just too many preachy people around me. I'm not saying go lose your virginity as soon as you can or that you should go sleep with anyone who's got a dick attached to them. Fact is, you can never measure my value based on the number of men I've been with or whether I'm a virgin or not.

I recall talking to one Atenista friend last month. I told him about that time when out of the blue an old love (I do think I loved him back then hehe) came back and we ended up in bed. Not a proud moment but I don't find anything wrong with it as well. I'm single, he's single, we had a past. My friend then said something like, "You sleep with him, now you lose value. If I sleep with a girl, then I gain value." I looked at him wide -eyed and told him that if I never expected such a reaction from someone like him and if he indeed mean what he just said then he's a pig for ever thinking that.

I then told the Lady that I decided to lose my virginity early on after so much deliberation. Though I know it's moral/religious and social implications I decided I'd rather lose it than be weighed through the existence of that piece of flesh I am a woman of substance and a person all my own. My values as a person would never be measured by something as fragile as my hymen.

The Bitch Says:

Shoot, i've always believed that if you're going to protest this kind of thing to make sure you're as righteous as you claim. or else, you're nothing but a hypocrite. I have nothing against those who decided to go and free themselves of the bonds of virginity. and i definitely have nothing against those who are willing to wait till marriage. heck that's their choice. i dont think it makes anybody any less. Our decisions define us. whether it be wrong or right. hold on. right and wrong is determined by opinion. what may be right or wrong for one person may not necessarily be so for another. so how do we determine if it is? If you say so. As long as your choices for your life does not mean stepping on other,people, or hurting other people, go on ahead. Why should our being virgins or NOT being vifgins be a gauge of our "self". Freud always related sex as the root of a beings persona. everything has, one way or another, something to do with sex. maybe he has a point. maybe it does make us who we are. i'm definitely not ruling that out.

i agree with the Lady. we're educated people. Why would something like our virginity or the lack of it be something that would even minutely bother us? and why bother about it? in the long run its just a piece of flesh.. that you cant even see.. would ultimately be just a piece of skin. and nothing else.